No.1 Way to Release Wedding
Let's dive straight into a topic that's a real happiness killer when planning weddings – worry.
Picture this: worry is like a sneaky saboteur that creeps into your life, stealing your joy over the big day. It's a time-consuming, energy-draining villain that stops the fun in its tracks.
So, why let worry be the puppet master of your emotions? It's time to reclaim your happiness and feel super excited about your plans without the baggage of unnecessary fretting.
Worry essentially boils down to fear, a fear that can take a toll on your mental well-being, leading to tension, stress, and a whirlwind of unhealthy emotions.
We've got two main mental playing fields: one fuelled by love, which brings calmness and a sense of control, and the other dominated by fear, bringing anxiety and chaos into the mix.
Let me share a story about Sarah, who found herself in the clutches of worry as she was gearing up for her wedding. Instead of revelling in the excitement, she was drowning in anxiety. The pivotal question for her became: were her thoughts rooted in love or fear?
As we chatted Sarah realised her thoughts were fear-driven, causing unnecessary worry and anxiety.
Now, here's the interesting part – both sets of thoughts were about a future event, the wedding, but one set was casting a dark cloud of anxiety, while the other was radiating positivity.
To break down love and fear based thoughts:
Fear: "I’m really tense on the day and am not enjoying it."
Love: "I’m really relaxed on the day and love every moment."
Fear: "I don’t get the chance to chat to everyone and feel guilty afterwards."
Love: "I get quality time with everyone on the day and the next day feel full of love."
Fear: "My guests don’t enjoy it."
Love: "My guests love it and have a great time."
Fear: "The timings don’t go to plan and it cocks up."
Love: "It all runs perfectly and seamlessly."
Fear: "My hair and make-up go wrong."
Love: "I love my hair and make-up; I’m so happy."
The key here is that both sets of thoughts are about your wedding in the future, but one set makes you feel good now while the other triggers anxiety. The solution? #chooselove.
Sarah's journey involved putting her fear-based worries in a mental box and leaving them behind. On the flip side, she took the love-based thoughts home, reading them daily like a mantra. The more she did this, the more it felt like her reality. Anxiety faded away, replaced by excitement.
So, if you catch yourself drowning in worry about future events, here's a four-step plan to break free:
Write down all your fear-based thoughts.
Counteract them with a second list based on love.
Bid farewell to the fear-based thoughts – burn them or toss them in the bin.
Embrace the love-based thoughts daily, like a daily dose of positivity.
Releasing the grip of worry not only frees up your time but also unlocks the energy and joy you want in planning and picturing your wonderful wedding day.
P.S. If you want more stories like Sarah's and additional exercises to kick worry to the curb, check out my book, "The LIPSTICK Principles: Let go of worry and fear, live in the moment, and love life
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